57. The Absurdity of Old Grudges
Letting go of ancestral trauma does not mean agreeing or forgetting. Healing fateful past encounters – like Arjava's imagined meeting with Phyllis Furumoto – reveals the absurdity of old grudges.
Reading his grandfather's racist colonial diary made Arjava realise how free he is from such prejudice. René reflects on his SS father and the complexity of love and horror coexisting. We do not need to carry ancestral burden to honour the past.
Reconciling means healing the wounds of fateful past encounters. Through an imagined meeting with Phyllis Furumoto, Arjava reveals the absurdity of old grudges.
Forgiving doesn't mean forgetting. And if I forgive, it doesn't mean I agree.