14. Forgiveness; Understanding Circumstances
Forgiving oneself, constellation work and irrevocable damage
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To forgive myself for being human, was one of my first things …
…coming to a place of being able to forgive was really a major piece of work.
Exploring constellations between Usui, Hasyshi, Takata and Furumoto showed a human angle which allowed to let go of expectations of “perfectness”.
… it was my big paradox to hold my grandmother as the woman that I knew she was and my experience of her as a granddaughter and as a Reiki Master knowing she was not perfect and yet hearing how she was so perfect for everybody else.
Making amends with some people may be right but under other circumstances it may be appropriate to leave things rest.
The gift of accepting who we were as human beings at that time and being able to understand both sides of the coin… is a kind of reconciliation in and of itself and doesn’t need to involve the other person.
When irrevocable damage is done between two people, as exemplified in the relationship between Phyllis Furumoto and her then husband, acceptance of each other’s vulnerability is part of the healing.